Sorry, were you speaking?

Artist David Hockney said “Listening is a positive act: you have to put yourself out to do it.”

There is a huge difference between listening and waiting for your turn to speak

but how often do we really listen instead of formulating our next response? Active listening and others’ listening of us are way more than just the words. It is not so much understanding the words but why the question was asked in the first place.

In these frenetic times, how about choosing to give someone the gift of truly listening to them? It will let them know that they are important to you; that their opinions really matter, and that they are valued.

listening-quote-dalai-lamaPutting our own worries, opinions and judgments to one side takes a simple decision.   Deploying our senses to see subtle changes in the face and body, or hear the nuances of tone, emphasis, language and sentence construction only requires us to be present and not off in our heads worrying about something else.